It's hard being two married people, married to others that is, meeting and trying to maintain a Dominant - submissive relationship. Our other lives are constantly getting in the way of everything we do and everything we want to do. We can't play publicly, but we both would like to. We can't really get carried away with whips or crops or anything that would leave marks, yet we both would love to. We can't go away for a weekend and really get into our roles for an extended period of time, yet we both would love to try. Ultimately we meet in secret, always fearful that today is the day we slip up and our spouses discover our secret. It limits our growth, it keeps apprehension in the back of our minds, and ultimately detracts from what brings us together in the first place, a strong desire, perhaps need, to let that other person inside of us out.
So I would like to hear from any other couples that are in similar circumstances. How do you cope? How do you keep things interesting and fresh when you have to meet secretly? Maybe there is a need for the cheating doms and subs munches or dungeons. Certainly there should be a forum for us to relate to each other allow us to feel less alone in our journeys. So if you are like us and you have discovered my blog, ( two big ifs) post a comment or two.
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i am a married sub, not married to my Master. It is very difficult and frustrating at times. And as i am sure you know, it is a very complex situation we are in. i cope because it is what i need and what i want.
i am happy to find your blog and look forward to following your story.
sub lilly
Thank you for sharing your story with us, its nice to read what others are going through.
I would like to find someone like minded, a married or open minded sub that would take a Married master, who is looking for an outlet, but I don't know how to find someone, that is the challenge I've found in all of this.
i have found that keeping the lines of communication open in between meets goes a long way. can be just talk about our days or maybe a little task or challenge to fill the time does make for a more intimate Dom/sub relationship. a good Dom should be a good friend and companion as well as a good Dom. when you are married to others, it is that trust and genuine care that keeps the relationship real and no just a game played when time permits. i know most would not see a cyber Dom/sub relationship as real but what i had with mine was very real for both of us. both married, yet found time to chat and play and yes, Dominate and submit. maybe that is why i do not have a problem with having a bond with another even with the restrictions. or maybe i am just different, look at these things differently. i do know what i had or have is good if you want it to be
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