Monday, July 16, 2007

A good place

It's big a while since. I last posted, due in large part to an extraordinarily busy travel schedule. We haven't been able to get together in over two weeks and I find myself missing her greatly. It's not our first pause, and each time they happen I find myself reflecting on our relationship, and this time is no different. We are in a good place now with both of us enjoying ourselves and getting what we need. Sometimes our pauses have caused us to drift apart, due in large part to some pretty ineffective sessions prior to our break. This time seems different, likely because our recent sessions have been much better. Am I finally getting the hang of being a Dom? Boy I hope so. Being a good Dom is not easy. Too often I read about Doms whose relationship is completely one sided; everything is about them. and no thought is given to their sub's needs. As a new Dom I read a number of blogs and stories like this and foolishly felt I could act like an egocentric jerk and everything would be OK since her desire was to please me. Today I know how dumb that is and how her desire to please is born from my ability to satisfy her needs.
Our break is almost over and soon we will be able to resume our journey. I for one, can't wait to remind her in my own special way how important she is to me.