Time doesn't heal all wounds

Whenever we are unable to get together, we tend to drift apart and chatting online doesn't seems to help, if fact it often makes things worse. Our normal lives seem to be the culprit. Both my sub and I have jobs that make it difficult to get together or even to chat effectively online. In the end, we wind up chatting as friends and not as Dom and Sub. That seems to weaken our relationship. We've tried chatting as Dom and sub, but work, interruptions and meetings make that very difficult and extremely frustrating. You can't control a sub that is already being controlled by another, her work. On top of that, coming up with conversation which is interesting and pertinent is difficult to do all the time.

When days apart turn into weeks, the situation grows worse. Over the last few weeks we had been unable to get together. This time communication became guarded, short and uninteresting. Somehow there had to be a way to fix this without meeting, which had been the way we previously had repaired our relationship. Being the Dom, the task fell to me to solve it. The answer was to wait for a suitable opportunity during the day for both of us to concentrate, and then to force us both to analyze the situation until we identified the issue and drafted a solution. It wasn't a substitute for a meeting, but it did allow us understand what was bothering us and work to find solutions that allow our time apart not to tear us apart. What was the answer? Simple, understand we are both busy, use only the end of the day to connect as Dom and Sub, and use the rest of the day to merely reach out and touch the other to let them know we are thinking of them without trying to create conversation.